Top 10 Reasons Not to Do a Boudoir Shoot... and Why They Are Wrong
So, you've been thinking about doing a boudoir shoot. Maybe you've scrolled through some stunning photos, read a few testimonials, and thought, Wow, that looks amazing! But then, that little voice in your head starts listing all the reasons why you shouldn't do it. Sound familiar?
Let's talk about those objections—the ones we hear all the time from women just like you. You're definitely not alone in having these thoughts! But here's the thing: every woman who has walked into our studio with these exact same concerns has left feeling more confident, beautiful, and powerful than when she arrived.
So let's dive into these so-called reasons not to do a boudoir shoot... and why they just don't hold up.
1. "This is just an overpriced vanity project."
It's so easy to put ourselves last on the priority list, isn't it? Maybe you're thinking this is an unnecessary splurge, or that your hard-earned money could go toward something more "practical." But when was the last time you invested in something just for you?
Why This Is a Myth:
Boudoir isn't about vanity—it's about embracing yourself and owning your fabulousness. It's about reconnecting with the woman who might have gotten lost in the daily hustle of life. This experience is an investment in your emotional well-being, not just pretty pictures.
"I told myself for years that I'd do this after I lost weight or things settled down. Those things never happened, but I bit the bullet anyway, and I am soooo glad I did. I promise you will leave this session feeling beautiful and empowered. And the feeling returns every single time you look back at your pictures. Trust me, just do it!! You won't regret it!" – Amanda N.
When you rediscover how beautiful and powerful you truly are, that confidence ripples through every aspect of your life—and that's priceless.
2. "I don't look like a model, so my photos will be terrible."
I get it. You see gorgeous boudoir images and think, That could never be me. You're worried about how to pose, what faces to make, or whether your body "measures up." But here's a little secret from behind the scenes: almost none of the women in our portfolio thought they would look that good either.
Why This Is a Myth:
Our specialty is working with real women—not models. Our entire process, from expert posing guidance to flattering lighting techniques, is designed to capture your unique beauty. You don't need to know how to "look sexy"—that's our job!
"I was nervous but they exceeded my expectations on every level! If you are undecided, take the jump!" – Jessica A.
"I've never felt so beautiful in my life! I started nervous and upright and within min they made me feel comfortable." – Randi F.
Your only job is to show up. We'll guide you through every step, every pose, and every smile until you see yourself in a whole new light.
3. "I don't need to spend money just to see myself in a different light."
It's true that we don't need a lot of things in life. But let me ask you this—when was the last time you looked at a photo of yourself and truly felt a surge of confidence? When did you last see your strength, wisdom, and beauty all captured in one powerful image?
Why This Is a Myth:
This experience goes so much deeper than "just photos." It's about reclaiming your identity and celebrating who you are right now. Many women find themselves prioritizing everyone else's needs for years (sometimes decades!), slowly losing touch with their own sense of self.
"As I entered my late 40's, I was starting to feel invisible (to myself and society). This photoshoot helped remind me that I am beautiful and worth celebrating. I just needed to find my inner confidence to shine." – Miranda M.
A boudoir session isn't just another expense—it's a declaration that you value yourself. It's a tangible reminder of your worth that you can revisit whenever you need that boost.
4. "I'd never want anyone to see these photos anyway."
That's completely valid! This experience is 100% about you and what makes you comfortable. Your privacy is always our top priority.
Why This Is a Myth:
Many of our clients initially say they'll never show these photos to anyone. And that's absolutely fine! But what often happens is fascinating—these images become a cherished personal treasure, a secret source of confidence you can turn to whenever you need a reminder of your power.
"This experience helped me redefine how I see myself. Mike and Angi from Mike Fox Photography exuded kindness and professionalism in the most intimate shoot I've ever done. A boudoir shoot was not something I ever saw myself doing but I would definitely do it again." – Miosha R.
Whether you keep them just for yourself or decide to share them with someone special later, these images are yours to use however feels right to you. No pressure, no expectations—just options.
5. "I'll just look at the photos a couple of times and forget about them."
You might be thinking these photos will end up collecting digital dust somewhere on your computer or sitting in an album you rarely open. That's a practical concern—we get it!
Why This Is a Myth:
These aren't just ordinary photos that you glance at and forget. They're powerful reminders of your courage, beauty, and strength. Our clients often tell us they turn to their images during times when they need a confidence boost or a reminder of their inner power.
"I viewed my images yesterday and WOW!!! Their expertise in lighting, posing, and their ability to make it fun showed in all my images - they are BEAUTIFUL!" – Kristi C.
Plus, our luxury albums and wall art are designed to be timeless keepsakes, not just another photo collection. They're conversation pieces, confidence boosters, and beautiful works of art featuring the most amazing subject—you!
6. "I don't have time for this."
Life is busy. Between career demands, family responsibilities, and everything else on your plate, finding time for yourself can seem impossible. We completely understand—most of our clients are juggling multiple roles and responsibilities too!
Why This Is a Myth:
If we're honest with ourselves, we make time for the things we value. This session is just a few hours that can change how you see yourself for years to come. And the entire process is designed to be stress-free—we handle all the details so you can simply show up and shine.
"Doing the photo shoot with Mike and Angi was one of the most rewarding experiences of my life! I was hesitant at first going through the process. However, as the time went on, they both made me feel very comfortable, and the results were amazing!" – Kat R.
You deserve a break from being everything to everyone else. You deserve a few hours that are just about celebrating you.
7. "I'm too old for this—boudoir is for younger women."
There is absolutely no expiration date on feeling beautiful, sexy, and confident. None.
Why This Is a Myth:
Our "Over 40 and Fabulous" project was created specifically because we believe women become more beautiful with age, not less. Your experience, wisdom, and journey have made you who you are today—and that woman deserves to be celebrated.
"I'm 66 and want to live louder than ever before. Leading up to my shoot, I was kind of nervous, but these wonderful artists made me feel comfortable, beautiful and confident. I viewed my images yesterday and WOW!!! Their expertise in lighting, posing, and their ability to make it fun showed in all my images - they are BEAUTIFUL!" – Karen F.
If not now, when? Your beauty isn't fading—it's evolving. Let's capture this chapter of your story.
8. "Boudoir photography is just about being sexy, and that's not my thing."
If you're picturing overly provocative poses or feeling pressure to be something you're not, let me reassure you: that's not what we're about at all.
Why This Is a Myth:
Our sessions are about celebrating your authentic beauty, whatever that looks like for you. Boudoir isn't just about sexiness—it's about confidence, grace, elegance, and the unique beauty that comes with experience. You control the mood and style of your session, and we work within your comfort zone to create images that feel true to you.
"Make it feel at ease and their energy is uplifting. Won't make you do anything you are not comfortable with. Love how they made me feel beautiful." – Alejandra G.
The result isn't just sensual photos—it's images that capture your essence, your strength, and the beauty you've cultivated throughout your journey. Our focus is on creating a gallery that makes you feel gorgeous and confident in a way that's authentic to you.
9. "I can just get a regular portrait session for less money."
You certainly could get standard portraits taken. But will those portraits make you feel like the goddess you truly are?
Why This Is a Myth:
A boudoir session is so much more than just photography—it's a complete experience designed to pamper, empower, and celebrate you. From professional makeup that makes you feel glamorous to expert posing that flatters your unique body, every element is crafted to make you feel incredible.
"I had my shoot with Mike and Angi and I thoroughly enjoyed it. They are an awesome team. I went in a bit nervous but they helped me feel comfortable and confident. And the photos came out AMAZING!!! It'll be an immortal gift to myself." – Adetokunbo T.
The transformation our clients experience goes far beyond what you'd get from a standard portrait session. This isn't just about how you look—it's about how you feel about yourself.
10. "I don't need this to feel confident—I'm already fine with myself."
That's wonderful! Self-confidence is a beautiful thing. But even the most confident women find themselves surprised by the power of this experience.
Why This Is a Myth:
Confidence isn't a destination—it's a journey. Even if you already feel good about yourself (and we hope you do!), a boudoir session can help you discover new dimensions of your beauty that you might not have fully appreciated before.
"My confidence was already a part of my essence, but I wanted to amplify it. The camera became a tool for rediscovering how beautiful I truly was... The shoot helped me feel empowered and appreciated, enhancing the confidence I already had." – Ms. L.
Think of it as an opportunity to celebrate the confidence you already possess, while perhaps seeing yourself through a fresh lens that reveals even more about your remarkable self.
Ready to Celebrate Your Fabulous Self?
At the end of the day, a boudoir session isn't just about pictures—it's about reconnecting with the powerful, beautiful woman you are. It's about taking a moment to celebrate yourself, exactly as you are right now.
We've heard all these objections before, and we've seen countless women transform from nervous first-timers to confident, radiant goddesses during their sessions with us. The only regret our clients ever express? Not doing it sooner.
Curious about taking the next step? Schedule a free, no-pressure consultation call with us to chat about your questions and concerns. We're here to listen and help you decide if this experience is right for you.
And if you're over 40? Check out our special "Over 40 and Fabulous" project—a celebration designed specifically for amazing women like you who are ready to embrace this chapter of life with confidence and joy.
Your future self will thank you for saying yes to this experience. Because you deserve to see yourself the way we already do—absolutely fabulous. 💖